Black people Need Love Too- the media and its lack of effort to help us conquer mental illness via medium
Black people are less likely than white people to get help for mental illness. One quarter of black people will seek help for their mental illness, compared to 40% of white people who will agree to get help, says National Alliance on Mental Health. In a black household, getting help for mental illness is a sign of weakness. Minimal black people will step up and admit to having a problem and tacking the steps to help themselves. Besides the barriers of poverty and racism, black people also face cultural biases against treatment. According to Let’s Erase The Stigma, 40% of black people are in denial that they have a mental illness. So, the same amount of white people that are going to get help, is the same number of black people that are not admitting to having the problem to begin with. Mental illness is like an emotion to some people in the black community, something you can shake off. Mental illness is the opposite of something that you can shake off, it’s a health issue. Mental illness can transform your way of thinking, behaving, and your emotions. So many people in the black community are struggling with dealing with suicide, depression, bipolar, and post traumatic stress disorder. Unlike 40% of white people, we do not seek help, we handle it in our own way. We suppress our illness in alcohol consumption, weed passing, and denial.
What is the difference between physical pain and emotional pain and the way that we handle them?
If you get stabbed in the hand right now, what would be your first thought besides “WTF”? It’s probably how to quickly and safely stop the pain. When we go through emotional pain, we do the opposite of trying to quickly stop the pain, we dwell in it. If a lover or friend stabs you in the back, you don’t quickly try to move forward, you stay upset and continue to make the emotional pain worse. We replay scenarios and conversations that happened and that makes up more upset. The point of this post is to explain to you that by not forgiving someone, you are hurting yourself. Think about how much energy you use being mad at someone. It’s actually exhausting and annoying. Then think about how easy it is to let it go. When someone does something wrong to you, learn to forgive them for you. By forgiving someone, you are lifting weight from your shoulders and moving forward freely. Here is how you can learn to forgive.
Let It Out
You’re only human, so channel your anger in a safe way. Scream, kick something, or punch something. Let your anger out and take a deep breath. I like to yell WHAT THE FUCK really loud when I’m mad. It doesn’t solve the issue, but I feel better. And feeling better is part of the goal.
The first thing our parents teach us is manners. We’re supposed to be polite, that is why when people do unmannerly things, we’re so offended.
Why do we get so upset when people don’t say thank you when we open the door? Because that’s rude. Why do we feel uneasy when our friends bring other friends around us without introducing us? Because it’s rude not to introduce people. And why do we get upset when someone accidentally bumps us, without saying sorry? Because that’s rude. Having manners is something that you should have anyway, but gratitude is something that will take you further. Gratitude is more than saying please and thank you, it’s showing appreciation and being thankful. Being polite takes you further, and having appreciation for everything you receive creates good vibes internally. You’re feeling good and being nice to people and that makes other people feel good. This then creates a domino effect of positive filled people! This gratitude helps you stay in good spirits. For the most part, you want to be appreciative of everything. Even if something bad happens, you have to see the silver lining. Shit happens, but you have to find the good in all of the shit. Whenever something unfortunate to you happens, train your mind to see the good in that situation. “Damn, I got a flat tire, but this is the perfect time for me to learn how to change a flat.” Things happen for reason, don’t cloud the good with the negativity. Be grateful instead of grouchy and all the good things will fall into your lap. Here are three things to practice doing.
I’ve heard so many stories from people confessing that they’re not happy because they did not pursue what they loved.
Some people had a child and thought that was the green light to give up. Some people got injured and gave up on their dreams, and some people were doubtful because of other people’s opinions. Somewhere down the line in life, people stop having a good time. I’m not talking about happiness, because that’s an emotion. No matter how great we are, our emotions go up and down. When I speak of having a good time, I literally mean doing something that blocks our “not so good” days into “It’s not that bad” days. This could be a hobby you love or something you want to pursue that is more than a hobby. Everyone loves to do something and no matter where you are in life, you should keep on doing it. It’s always fun to have something to look forward to. Here are 4 simple things you can do to stay turned on by life.
When you're younger, one of the first things that you're
taught is that you can be anything you want to be.
While we were younger, we took that literally. I used to want to be a mermaid, so that can't be all the way true. As I grew older, the message changed to “you can be anything you want to be, BUT you have to work hard.” See, that makes more sense. I do believe you can be or do whatever you want with hard work. I also believe that along with hard work, you have to train your brain to believe that too. Depending on how you grew up, you’re subconsciously not going after what makes you happy anymore. You no longer believe that you can do whatever you want. Any boss, entrepreneur, or artist didn't just work hard, THEY KNEW that they'd make it. Jay Z knew he'd be great. "My uncle told I would never sell a million records. I sold a million records about a million times." Diddy stayed consistent. “Can’t Stop, Won’t Stop.” And finally, DJ Khaled and him speaking it into existence. “We the Best” and “We Takin’ Over.” When you're pushing through and trying to make it (making it can mean whatever you want), you must know that you are valuable. You're the first person to believe in you. If you don't believe in yourself, who will? Work your brain into all positive thoughts. Make moves the way that person you're trying to become would move. Basically, I'm saying take control of your brain. Once you train your thoughts into reality, you're moving the way you should be. Make your brain your bitch. There are 6 things you can do to make your brain your bitch. Gems below.
Whether it’s God, Allah, or the Source Energy, I’ve never heard anyone say that did not want to become closer to their God or spiritually droned.
Meditation is probably one of the easiest and healthiest things you can do for yourself to reach that point. Studies show that there are multiple health benefits from meditating. Since 1930, there have been studies showing the good that comes from meditating like the decrease in heart rate, oxygen consumption, and blood pressure. For those people who have bad anxiety, you become less anxious, and you get a decrease in the stress hormone. Meditation also helps with things like self-confidence. People who meditate become more independent. Creatives become MORE creative and your productivity increases. Basically, all the negative habits and body functions like cigarette and alcohol abuse decrease, and the good stuff like healthy habits of eating and exercising increases. Those are just a few benefits from a lengthy list.
Are you convinced on meditating yet?